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Disciplining my kids is not fun!

As I reread the title of my post, back to myself – I sigh every time. It’s the absolute, complete, truth! I remember setting out on this parenting journey and wanting to set up our disciplining early so that it would be easier for us later…….. well that was a complete joke! Now, understand upfront, that this post isn’t a complaining one – I’m super proud of us, and our kids are amazing, but I don’t want the illusion bubble of “they’re amazing” to cloud the fact that it has been a continuous journey of slogging it out up until now.

I don’t know. There is truth in the fact that because we worked hard with them when they were little (one still is) that it has made the later “kiddy” years easier. But the game always changes. Each one requires a different approach. One can take the strict, hardcore parent – where as the other one will be completely crushed by that and needs a more strategic approach.

I guess I’m wanting to say this because it’s been a bit of a conundrum of late. My older two are at an age where the discipline thang is a lot more conversation, consequences and getting to places of understanding both sides, a lot more clearly. Where as our little gentleman needs the bare basic, slog at it every day “look at me” “don’t do that” “that’s bad behaviour” “naughty seat” approach.

But man oh man! is it insane because we’re constantly having to switch gears between them all. It can become a little hilarious when you’re expecting your 3 year old to explain “why” he did something…… when he’s still struggling to say the letter “k” in a word. As it’s happening, I smack myself metaphorically and remind myself that he’s only 3 and must just learn to “know” what he did is unacceptable and apologise with hugs and kisses.

Then you flip that coin on the older two and realise that you can’t send them to the naughty corner. (sometimes I do, but it’s more if they’re having an emotional break down and need to gather themselves) but they would just giggle at me if I did send them if they did something out of character.

One thing I do know, is that I am glad we started the process really early and that we have a culture of choices and consequences. It’s made for an easier road with the smaller one. But don’t you dare be fooled – these three have-it-on everyday and it’s a choice (mainly on my part, since I’m with them the most) to assess each and every situation and calculate approaches to make sure they all come out learning something good and makes them into better human beings.

Any tips and tricks that you use/used for your kids (even if they’re 28 years old) or something that worked for you that your parents did…….. I’d gladly welcome the information to help us learn more and parent as best as we can. (spanking, unfortunately isn’t an easy topic of late – and I’m choosing to keep my opinion off the public internet in case I get misquoted and reported for something I didn’t even do – but I’ll gladly share my opinion with you in person if you’re interested :D)

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I'm a woman finding my way through life as the wife of Tim, the mom to 3 growing kids and trying to maintain some sort of self through it all. I hope you enjoy reading how I’m trying to find myself through this life.

11 thoughts on “Disciplining my kids is not fun!

  1. Oh wow Shaveh! I love this post so much.

    I’ve been struggling with my 9 y/o lately and find myself in the naughty corner trying to gather my emotions and thoughts. Whilst I do discipline her, I feel like my approach needs to be changed because she is getting “comfortable” with it. It is so tricky because as much as I don’t want her to operate like a robot, I want things to be done a certain way.

    Agh I need help 😦

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    1. It’s so hard! But I’ve found that talking to friends that have older kids than I do, with either similar situations, beliefs and struggles has really helped to bring clarity and strategy. I also pray about it a lot because it’s so important. 💜💜

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  2. I have learnt so much on my 20 year parenting journey and other days I feel so dumb still. All I know is that each child is unique and needs a parent who can tune into that individual discipline/discipleship plan …. exhausting! Wonderful gifts when it pays off… oops, wait I need to go see why my 2 year old foster-to-adopt kid is quiet

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    1. Hahahahahahaha that’s hilarious! Going to check on the quiet toddler 🤣🤣🤣
      You’re so right. Can’t wait for the many gifts that are on the horizon 💪🏽

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  3. I actually came here to tell you that you need to please give me more tips on how to keep my kids safe! lol Yes, I know its a weird place to ask. I love your discipline and how your kids follow your instruction.

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    1. Wow!! This is encouraging Luchae! I do so many things that I don’t even think about them now. But I’ll pull something together and tag you? Would that work?

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