I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but kids grow! Like a lot and quickly around this time of year. It’s almost like they stand in fertilizer during winter, and they shoot up and mature in spring.
All three of my kids go through the same growth spurt at this time of year and it’s awkward because their clothes are still winter things and I have to go to the sales racks and get clothes that will hopefully fit them next year. So they’re stuff is slightly big. (Because it’s still not warm enough for summer stuff yet)
Anyway, the reason why I was writing this post was because my son has just blossomed. I was honestly worried about him a few months ago because he wasn’t talking a lot and his vocabulary had only 4 to 5 words in it.
Now, as much as it’s still a language only a mom can understand, he is talking so much more and finding his voice in the world. It’s so cute because he tries to rank with his sisters who are so much older than he is. It’s hilarious because he either wins because of his charm or loses because of his size. Lol.
Anyway, the one challenge I do have is that the iPad has become his drug. We’ve witnessed the biggest tantrums and begging around the thing.
I honestly hate that I’m the mom that has a son that has headphones and an iPad in the “busy bag”.
So, because I started to notice that my baby is no longer a baby and needs more stimulation than a screen can give him. I decided to seek out other activities that we can add to the “busy bag”.
It was in this moment that I realized that Jude is now at the age that Aislyn was at, when we were deciding between nursery school or homeschool.
When I realized this, I almost had a small anxiety attack! Where has the time gone? Just the other day we found out were pregnant! What the?
Now I really have to multi schedule for my little man.
I must admit that as much I was ready for this, I wasn’t quite “ready” for him to be this age and needing the mental stimulation all three year olds need.
I remember doing the research for what activities I needed to do for the girls. (Aislyn was 3 and Iraina was 1 at the time)
So I’ve whipped out the puzzles I’ve kept from that time. I have had to pull out a flip file. I had to find my old “preschool” schedule for him and start sorting out lives out around his little stimulating station.
I must admit that it is a lot harder with him being the third one, but there are more than a few ways to skin a cat, so as they say – “I got this!”
Wow!! Pinterest wasn’t around back in 2010-crazy right? I googled a whole lot of stuff back then but now with the swipe and a tap I can find all the activities I want. So I’ve made him a felt busy book. This is hopefully going to help him recognize his name, shapes, colours, numbers and body parts.
As much as this sounds all wonderful and amazing, I have to factor in the fact that he is not my little “girls” – he is all rough and tumble “boy”. So what I would normally think was a good idea for the girls, doesn’t quite work the same for him. His strength is beyond his abilities and so pulling and pressing is a lot more exaggerated than the girls would have done.
This is the part I’ve found to be the most challenging to balance. The boy and girl brains work completely differently and it shows in the way they approach activities of any nature.
Here’s how I know I have a “boys boy”
1. A stick for a little girl, becomes a delicate instrument – for use with her dolls or fellow plays mates to take care of something to cook and clean. For a boy – well, “en guard!” Hit, smack, stab and defeat. It’s a weapon and he fights anything – the tree, the wall or just the ground around him.
2. Bugs – my girls scream, run away and don’t want anything to do with them. My son – will seek them out and either play with them or take his stick and crush them. He squatted in the kitchen the other day, while a bee roamed over his foot and had the biggest smile on his face because the big was “on” him.
3. Using the toilet – my girls, it’s practical and what it’s supposed to be, “a means to an end”. My son, will use his “bit” to colour the toilet and make his visits a battle needing to be conquered. Yes there’s no stick but we have something else that becomes a sword and gets pointed in many directions. (I didn’t get why boys toilets smelled so bad until I had my son-I get it now) if you have a “boys boy”, you’ll understand what I’m meaning.
4. Baby dolls and Teddy’s are items for a girl that help her express her nurturing tendencies and get carried around like precious jewels. Enter the 2 year old boy, carrying the doll by its foot and swinging it around like a lasso and trying to capture the dragon that is the teddy bear. Here being the beating down instead of the gentle love and care. It’s not violent – just rough.
5. When selecting tv shows or music of any kind – my girls naturally gravitate towards the “Sofia” kind of vibe, where as my son will gladly watch hours (and I mean hours, if I let him) of a show called “larvae”. If you’ve seen it then you’ll know that there are burps, farts, snot and gross things that are just silly. But he loves it and it isn’t violent. Gross.
Now don’t get me wrong, there are moments where he will express his responsible, gentle nature. But 8 times out of 10, the boys boy wins and I’m probably going to have to get used to it for the rest of my life.
In a nut shell I’m adjusting and he’s growing. Love him to death. Do you have a son? Or a little boy in your life? Can you relate? Teach me some tricks on how to keep the bathroom cleaner…….I would LOVE! To learn that from you.